What are some (or one) of the things about which you usually don’t trust your own judgment, and need someone’s else’s confirmation?
Why take a second opinion? Do we really need one? What if the second opinion turns out to be against our judgment or decision? This would make our mind go topsy –turvy. Once we miss on the (hidden) first opinion, which in fact is the voice of our conscience (that silently cross our mind), we will then not confine ourselves with a second opinion but a dozen other opinions unless we have had enough who will agree with our own. The more support we get, the better!
While approaching for a second opinion we try to convince the second party to agree to the decision we had already taken or the presumptions we have made and try to influence them through our thoughts. Those who are wise will confirm and those who are not will give their own opinion and judgments, unaware that it is a waste of time because it will not be followed in any case. When we go for a second opinion we look for supporters and not advisers!
For instance, we look for second opinion here in this blog itself. The more “likes” and “positive comments” we get, the better, because we get followers who agree to our thoughts. But what if no one likes the post? If someone does not agree to them, it is fine. Perspectives differ! If we need advice we’ll look for one but, allow others to manipulate our decision through a second opinion? No way! WordPress itself has given the provision for approving these second opinions! 🙂
Just enjoyed this conversation cited by another blogger!
A typical conversation….Me: “Hey, which is better the red or the blue?”
Companion : “The red, definitely the red”
Me: OK… but I like the blue one on me.. I think I ‘ll take that !
So it is better to stick to our own judgments and not waste time. The more we learn to trust our own decisions, the lesser time we waste and the wiser we become.
© 2014 Ahmad and Ahmad
2 thoughts on “No Second Opinion”
Yes I agree… as my hubby says, you are not looking for an opinion… just an approval ….of your opinion! maybe.. but I still like asking…ha ha!!
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In fact second opinion is a confirmation and not a second opinion in the real sense, as the term is used. 🙂