The Argument

When there is disagreement or difference of opinion, there is controversy; and because there is controversy, change persists. We have seen childhood, youth and adulthood. And now we are experiencing parenthood. Just as our life cycle has been through different phases, so have our thoughts. Here are few of the cases, what we were taught to believe when we were young. What we were taught was not wrong; but they are not right either. At least, this is what we believe today. Our views on the same issues have undergone drastic changes. For good or bad, if you ask; we would say, its not the last! We still have miles to go before we sleep. 🙂

So, here are those issues, that we agree to disagree.

We were taught: Always keep good company.  A man is known by the company he keeps.

We believe: No company is good or bad. A man becomes what he thinks and believes.

We were taught: Read good books and learn from them. They will be your best friends.

We believe: Books are expressions of great people. Read the minds of great people and express what you feel before your life ends.  

We were taught: Never tell a lie, it’s a punishable sin.

We believe: Your intentions matter. Just keep your soul clean.

We were taught: Obey your elders, they know better than you.

We believe: Age is just a number. Follow the wise, even if younger than you.

We were taught: Man is a social being. Follow the rules to lead a smooth life.

We believe: Society is for us, we are not for society. Get out of the comfort zone before you die.

We were taught: Smile a lot and at many people as you meet.

We believe: Smile may be fake. Let your eyes speak as you greet.

We were taught: Never talk to strangers. You never know.

We believe: Learn to believe and trust; the good will always flow.

These were some cases, which we were taught to believe at some point in our life. Today, as knowledgeable persons we try to defend the opposite. And let us tell you, it feels great! It feels like a great development as a human being, as a learner and as a creator of our own destiny and world. Today, we dare to dream and experience reality.

We have seen the good and the bad, and we believe, there is always something good about the bad and something bad about the good. So, the ball is always in your court!

© 2015 Ahmad and Ahmad

This post is in response to The Daily Post:Bone of Contention and Agree to Disagree

No Second Opinion

What are some (or one) of the things about which you usually don’t trust your own judgment, and need someone’s else’s confirmation?

Take time to think and follow your own decisions. Much better, if we can be intuitive.

Why take a second opinion? Do we really need one? What if the second opinion turns out to be against our judgment or decision? This would make our mind go topsy –turvy. Once we miss on the (hidden) first opinion, which in fact is the voice of our conscience (that silently cross our mind), we will then not confine ourselves with a second opinion but a dozen other opinions unless we have had enough who will agree with our own. The more support we get, the better!

While approaching for a second opinion we try to convince the second party to agree to the decision we had already taken or the presumptions we have made and try to influence them through our thoughts. Those who are wise will confirm and those who are not will give their own opinion and judgments, unaware that it is a waste of time because it will not be followed in any case. When we go for a second opinion we look  for supporters and not advisers!

For instance, we look for second opinion here in this blog itself. The more “likes” and “positive comments” we get, the better, because we get  followers who agree to our thoughts. But what if no one likes the post? If someone does not agree to them, it is fine. Perspectives differ! If we need advice we’ll look for one but, allow others to manipulate our decision through a second opinion? No way! WordPress itself has given the provision for approving these second opinions! 🙂

Just enjoyed this conversation cited by another blogger!

A typical conversation….Me: “Hey, which is better the red or the blue?”

Companion : “The red, definitely the red”

Me: OK… but I like the blue one on me.. I think I ‘ll take that !

Companion: Duh!

http://ripplesnreflectiontimes.wordpress.com/2014/08/11/just-checking-2/

So it is better to stick to our own judgments and not waste time. The more we learn to trust our own decisions, the lesser time we waste and the wiser we become.

© 2014 Ahmad and Ahmad

http://dailypost.wordpress.com/dp_prompt/second-opinion/