What is love? The dictionary says “Love is an intense feeling of deep affection”. We say we love our parents, we love our children, we love our spouse, and we love our friends and so on. Do we really love them? The immediate answer would be: Yes, of course! But do we love them all the time? Here is something we need to reflect on.
We love others so far their thoughts comply with our thoughts and expectations. The moment they tend to display their own independent views, arguments flare up. Best instances are observed between parents and children. Parents care for their children and wish for them a beautiful life full of happiness and success. As the child grows up and begin to display his/her own thoughts and interests, the supportive nature of parents disappear! There are many instances, especially in case of marriage. Though the scenario has changed to a large extent and many parents have now become more liberal, yet expectations still exist. Experience do count, but is it right to force our experiences on others? If someone wants to learn from others’ experience they will learn even if we do not tell them to. And if they don’t want to learn, they will never learn, however hard we try.
We always carry some aspect of “hate” along with “love”. It is said, love should be unconditional. Love should be true. Is love conditional? Is love false? Again it is said love is an illusion. If something is conditional or something is not true, it is no longer an intense feeling but a trade! If something is an illusion, it never was there on the first hand!
In any relationship, it is generally said that we must compromise, because no two persons are the same. By compromising we are actually displaying sympathy and not love. Where is empathy?
The word “love” carries with it a large number of expectations. This is where we misuse this beautiful word. There is no expectation attached to love. There is no sacrifice attached to love. More so, there is no affection attached to love. Everything in this world is materialistic. We also crave for affection just like we crave for any other materialistic thing in this world such as money or house etc. And craving for something means a powerful desire, and desire again means a feeling of want which leads to expectations. Where then is “love”?
“Love should be a free flow of emotions without expectations, sacrifice, craving or desire.”—–Ahmad and Ahmad
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