Be the change

Change
A view of a city clicked on a clear winter day.

The Daily Post: Be the change
What change, big or small, would you like your blog to make in this world? 

Change is something inevitable. And those who adapt to the changes survive. This has been the rule of this world since ages. However, change cannot and should not be imposed on anyone. Different situations and circumstances demand different rules.

Talking of this world and its people, a change is brought about by someone who thinks different. And those who think different will either be followed or criticised. Had we the power to change this world, we probably would not have been blogging here. We do not blog to bring about any change.

Yes, we have followers here in WordPress. They are our followers by their choice. They are those who probably like and enjoy our posts or get lost in the photographs we share. We love our followers because that gives us a sense of satisfaction, that we exist. This is a platform where we can be what we are- eccentric, stupid, crazy!

We are just like anyone else living in this world, with innumerable imperfections.  We make mistakes and learn from our mistakes. We are here to share our life; the good and even the bad, but trying as we do, to add a touch of positive vibe to make life look as simple as possible. We are one among those, struggling to create a life comfortable and suitable to live. We are here to make us feel good. We are glad to be part of the blogging community, learning everyday as we share our posts.

We are not here to change this world through our blog.  We are here to change us and be the change.

© 2015 Ahmad and Ahmad

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Are you SMART ?

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“The Grass is always Green on the other side.” It is human tendency to make comparisons and follow others. Knowingly or unknowingly this comparison lands us in a situation where we develop a sense of inferiority complex and that ultimately instigates jealousy in us. And if we introspect, this is actually the reason behind the negative energy within us. If we spend enough time analyzing our own thoughts and actions, how much time will be left with us to find fault with others?

To the layman, being smart may first relate to someone ‘well dressed’ and second to ‘social interaction’. Both are necessary but not sufficient for a fruitful life. Assume any situation where you come across someone who is well dressed but have a narrow bent of mind; someone who seems to steal the show but is very aggressive when it comes to personal relations.

It is not only important to ‘look good’, but what is more important is to ‘feel good’. While looking good gives us the desired confidence; feeling good gives us the desire to live our life with a purpose.

The Oxford English dictionary defines smartness as: to be good at learning, understanding and thinking in a logical way.

Let us consider these three aspects:

Learning: This refers to gaining knowledge and skill. We are not referring here to professional knowledge and skill development. Everyone is literate enough to learn to earn for himself. Even if someone is not highly educated does not mean he is not capable to live his life. And even if someone is highly educated does not mean he knows best how to live his life. The purpose of education is not to assist us to learn how to earn, rather it is to assist us to learn how to live.

We can learn in two different ways: First, from books and second from our own experience.

Books are literary works of people and their thoughts. Everyone is free to express thoughts and feelings in black and white. The conclusion we draw, however depends upon how we interpret things. There is a familiar saying: practice makes a man perfect. Learning from own experience therefore is the best way of learning. A wise decision would be to learn from others’ experience. This saves time, money and effort. For example, if you see a man fall into a pit you will definitely not follow him. But, experiences others face are based on the situation and environment they have lived in. So, how about learning from our own experience? Learning here means to lift us up when we fall, all set to face the hard realities all over again. So, when life is hard on you, never say:why me? Just say: try me! 🙂

What follows learning? It is to understand what we have learnt.

Understanding: This refers to knowing and realizing how and why things happen. This plays a crucial part because different people perceive the same situation differently. Understanding a situation assists us in our future endeavours and prevent us from committing the same mistakes a second time. It will help us to avoid an unfavourable situation or atleast direct us to act differently. But the question that arises here is: How to work on our potential to understand? This ability is acquired from our perception. Perception speaks about thinking in a particular way. A person will understand the things the way he allows his mind to work, in other words the way he thinks.

Thinking: This is the last and the most important of the three aspects of smartness. There is a very common saying that “A man becomes what he thinks”. Therefore thinking act as an institution for learning and understanding. Everything is in the mind and how we shape our mind. If we think logical we will act logical. Therefore to become smart and intelligent it is important to think logical, in other words think reasonable and sensible. This aspect reminds us of a large number of issues facing different nations in general and to human behaviour and human relations in particular. We would leave this matter for the reader to analyse and decide if he/she is smart!

The root of smartness therefore is in our mind. Our life is a learning process. It is fine to feel the way we want to feel. There is no harm in doing something we like to do. And it is absolutely alright to doubt what we have been taught to believe. What matters is we must not interfere in the lives of others. No one hurts us, no one is responsible for the life we are living. Everyone is busy assembling parts of their scattered life. Therefore, care for yourself. God is kind enough to take care of the rest. Live and let live!! 🙂

We just have to make-up our mind.

© 2014 Ahmad and Ahmad

No Second Opinion

What are some (or one) of the things about which you usually don’t trust your own judgment, and need someone’s else’s confirmation?

Take time to think and follow your own decisions. Much better, if we can be intuitive.

Why take a second opinion? Do we really need one? What if the second opinion turns out to be against our judgment or decision? This would make our mind go topsy –turvy. Once we miss on the (hidden) first opinion, which in fact is the voice of our conscience (that silently cross our mind), we will then not confine ourselves with a second opinion but a dozen other opinions unless we have had enough who will agree with our own. The more support we get, the better!

While approaching for a second opinion we try to convince the second party to agree to the decision we had already taken or the presumptions we have made and try to influence them through our thoughts. Those who are wise will confirm and those who are not will give their own opinion and judgments, unaware that it is a waste of time because it will not be followed in any case. When we go for a second opinion we look  for supporters and not advisers!

For instance, we look for second opinion here in this blog itself. The more “likes” and “positive comments” we get, the better, because we get  followers who agree to our thoughts. But what if no one likes the post? If someone does not agree to them, it is fine. Perspectives differ! If we need advice we’ll look for one but, allow others to manipulate our decision through a second opinion? No way! WordPress itself has given the provision for approving these second opinions! 🙂

Just enjoyed this conversation cited by another blogger!

A typical conversation….Me: “Hey, which is better the red or the blue?”

Companion : “The red, definitely the red”

Me: OK… but I like the blue one on me.. I think I ‘ll take that !

Companion: Duh!

http://ripplesnreflectiontimes.wordpress.com/2014/08/11/just-checking-2/

So it is better to stick to our own judgments and not waste time. The more we learn to trust our own decisions, the lesser time we waste and the wiser we become.

© 2014 Ahmad and Ahmad

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